As newly engaged Gabrielle Union prepares to launch her new BET show Being Mary Jane this month, Ms Union as busy as she may be, found the all important time to sit down with Glamour Magazine to give relationship. Read below for my favourite quotes and check out the link below for more..
DO forget your 'type.' It worked for me.
When I met Dwyane, his 'résumé' looked like crap: athlete, going through a divorce, nine years younger than me. None of that screamed, 'Let’s have a lasting relationship.' Then, after I had a heart-crushing breakup with yet another immature jerk, I thought, it can’t be any worse if I date a fetus. Let’s just see what happens. Turned out he’d been on his own since he was 15. He had wisdom that comes with facing an insane amount of adversity. He’s sweet, funny, honest about his shortcomings. When I put my preconceived notions to the side, I found someone cool.
DON’T put up with a friend-versus-boyfriend tug-of-war.
Some friends act possessive and say, “You’re not spending enough time with me.” Huh? Remember when we made our vision boards and the dude was in the middle? You’re supposed to be happy for me. Thankfully, my girls are like, “High-five!” And D likes to be around them too. If there’s weirdness, either something’s wrong with the friends—or the boy. Investigate. And sift accordingly.
DO show him your feelings. Daily.
Dwyane generally gets up before I do to go to the gym, and he’s never left without kissing me and telling me he loves me. As for me, I am complimentary to the point where I am almost a little Chester the Molester-y. I think he’s so delicious. Watching him get out of the shower never gets old. Never. It’s not like he ever wonders what I’m thinking, but usually he’s thinking, She needs a cold shower!
DO talk babies early on
If you really want a family, and the guy cringes when you bring it up, you’re not in the same place. Maybe he’ll get there, but you can’t pooh-pooh that shudder.
DO indulge your inner freak.
Sometimes my girlfriends will mention sexting or certain positions as something they’d do only with a guy on spring break. They’ll say, “You don’t do that with someone you love.” And I’ll say, “That’s who you’re supposed to do it with.” If I can do this awesome, amazing thing with some dude I met at a bar, why wouldn’t I be able to do it with the person I love? If you’re into it and he’s into it and it’s legal enough that the police aren’t going be involved—then go for it! Do it. A lot.”
Read more at Glamour Magazine
